Fair warning – this is 100% a dear diary post. Sometimes it feels good to just write and get something off your chest, ya know?
So let’s talk friendship. Specifically, making friends as adults. It is HARD. Am I the only one???
There are a few special folks who seem to have this amazing circle of friends they’ve carried from elementary school and I am truly amazed and low key jealous. Like, how?? More power to you – that’s a truly special thing. I, however, feel like I have random sets of friends from my life that seem to be super spread out from Conyers to DC to Mississipi and now in Atlanta. Over the years, a few of us have stayed connected and there are some of these friends who I’ve just completely lost touch with. I’ve always been that way though. More of a tight circle vibe I guess. But now that I’m a little older, I find myself wondering how you make new friends as an adult – and how to know when certain “friends” should be less of a friend and more of someone you keep as an acquaintance.
I took a step back a few weeks ago to sort of reevaluate the relationships in my life. There are some people in my life currently that I’ve always called a friend but when I really think about it, they aren’t. Every conversation is about them. Every get together is self-serving. The kicker is – I still enjoy spending time with them. I still want to be around them…sometimes. So, I’m choosing to embrace the type of relationship we have for what it is instead of holding them to a certain level of expectations. That might be the wrong way to approach so I’ll report back if this totally fails but in the meantime, I’m going to rock with it.
On the other side of the spectrum, I have been blessed with some amazing “newer” friends over the past few years. I met Jessica and Sarah through blogging and I legit can’t imagine what it would be like to not have them in my life. Jessica was my first blogging friend in Atlanta and she’s become SO much more than that. We talk business. We talk boys. We vent to each other and totally support each other. It’s a pretty special relationship and it’s crazy to think it started over a blind date brunch almost four years ago. Sarah is another blogger but real talk – she’s my sister. We connected on Instagram and found out we had a mutual friend in common from my DC days. Since our first date over salads, we’ve been pretty much attached at the hip. It’s like we’re the same freaking person. I don’t think I’ve had a connection like this with someone that wasn’t family (or my boyfriend) and I seriously feel so lucky when I think about our friendship.
My point is this – sometimes I feel like I need to expand my circle and there’s a good chance I probably should for Brandon’s sanity (I can be a little needy). But there are also times I feel like I should invest more in the relationships I already have. Truthfully, I don’t have an answer for ya. But I feel like it’s important to take a step back every now and then and evaluate the people we choose to surround ourselves with – drop a comment below if you can relate!